Who loves it? When you are sitting in what seems like a never ended queue and another driver pushes in, do you become annoyed or and experience road rage or are you kind and let them in even if they don’t ask or say think you?
How often do you let other people or situations determine how you feel?
You have a choice. You get to decide how you feel about any given situation. It is your choice if you choose to experience a feel-good or a feel-bad.
It may not be another driver or the traffic. It may be a colleague or your child or the weather. It could be anything.
Regardless of the situation, if you decided that you will become annoyed or experience a feel-bad emotion, you have given away your personal power. You have allowed the other driver (or insert annoying situation or person here) to dictate your emotional response.
Personal Power, is just that, it’s personal. It is yours. You get to decide if you give it away and allow the person, event or situation to control you.
Your response is something that you have learnt and you have the power to change it. Often you give your power over to others without even realising it. Awareness is key in determining how you respond to any situation.
Being an expert in your own life, you have the power to change it. Here is how to reclaim your personal power:
- Awareness – Become aware that you are irritated or annoyed or experiencing a feel-bad.
- Identify the source – Determine what it is that is making you feel that way. In the traffic example, it would be the other driver that pushed in or even the traffic itself.
- Review your belief – Establish what you believe around the situation and if you are allowing something outside of yourself to control you.
- Change your belief – Make up an outrageous rule that is unlikely to happen. In the case of the traffic, decided that you will only become annoyed at other drivers when the ocean has dried up.
- Take back your personal power.
- Put it into action – Test your new belief. Next time a driver pushes in and you start to feel annoyed, remind yourself of your rule. In this case: ‘Has the ocean dried up? No. Then I don’t need to be annoyed’.
The use of such rules can change your mood and your outlook in life. You can choose to make yourself feel better regardless of the situation. The choice is yours. You are worthy of feeling good.
What is it that you allow that makes you feel bad? Are you willing to change it?