Managing Your Night

In light of the recent events in South Africa and the pandemic drawing closer and closer to home. I was convinced that I would focus on the positive and ignore the ‘bad, negative and destruction’.

Avoiding the trauma of the loss of people, property and systems seemed like a good idea but manifested other symptoms within my body. It affected my sleep, and I was incredibly anxious to the point that I struggled to make decisions. My tolerance was low so I was unable to manage triggers that frustrated me.

Gratitude does transform your life, and there are gems within any challenging situation. Every cloud really does have a silver lining.

But Life Requires Balance.

That means to experience the full spectrum of emotions. Allow those lower vibration feelings to get their airtime.

Supressing those feel-bad, low-vibration emotions cause more distress within your body and manifest behaviours that are out of character.

There is good with the bad. Light with the dark. Day and night. Yin with yang. Masculine and Feminine. You need both to be complete.

One is not better than the other.

For example, the need for both feminine and masculine: Being soft, gentle and compassionate when someone passes and; strong and firm when putting in healthy boundaries. It is not about gender, it is about characteristics and balance.

You need both.

Unlearning. Allowing yourself to let go of what you think is right, good or positive and just be. Releasing those norms and standards that you picked up along the way from society, friends or family.

Giving yourself permission to be fully authentic in the moment. Acknowledging that you are scared, grateful and angry all at the same time. Feel all of them. No explanations necessary. Just experiencing all you feel without the stories attached to them.

If you choose to focus on the reason why you are feeling the way you do, it distracts you from the emotion. You move from your heart into your head. Often rationalising the emotions away. Losing them or supressing them.

Amongst the death, destruction there are feel-good emotions too. Feel them all, without judgement.