I Wasn’t Going To Tell You…

A week ago my mother fell and broke her back.

Life and priorities changed in an instant!

It’s scary how we take so many things for granted. Especially our health and ability to function.

Do you get distracted by silly arguments about the milk carton? Or find yourself mindlessly scrolling through social media? Yes, sometimes you do need to switch off and detach from what is going on in your life.

Finding the balance between honouring what is really important in your life versus detaching and distraction from the challenges they bring.

Self care is a theme that keeps appearing in my life. Filling my cup in order to offer the best version of myself to those I come into contact with. 

Being a recovering people pleaser, it is a challenge to find the balance between my obligations, my perceived obligations and caring for myself.

Getting into a routine that enables me to nurture my closest relationships while honouring my own needs and self-care is on-going work in progress.

So far, it appears to be best to conduct self care – yoga and meditation – first thing in the morning before getting distracted by the needs of others. This doesn’t always work out.

Conducting smaller, less time consuming self care, like using my favourite showergel that makes me happy for those brief moments is another way of incorporating self care. Choosing to scatter the small tasks that bring joy and happiness throughout the day that nurture my soul is a bit more manageable and realistic at the moment. Renaming them as ‘bursts of joy’ rather than tasks as it has a happier connotation.

Creating a mindful awareness of self-talk is an important aspect of self care. Judgement, harsh self criticism and more judgement is unhelpful and unkind, especially when working towards building yourself up.

The image below is helpful to remind you on kinder ways to talk to yourself:

Are you mindfully aware of what you say to yourself? 

What self-nurturing and essential self-care habits do you have? I would love to know and am keen to learn from you. Do contact me here.