How are you? Or in South African slang some may say ‘Howzit?’
The automatic answer chosen by most people is: “Fine or good and you?”
If you really want to know how someone is, you could try a different question. Here are a few examples (some courtesy of Keeley Shaw):
- What is going on in your body today?
- How did you connect to your breath today?
- What colour is your heart today? Why?
- How have you been sleeping?
- What lies do you find yourself believing?
- What thoughts have been circling your brain?
- What are you grateful for right now?
- What have you done just for you today?
- What are your top three feelings today?
- What stories are you telling yourself today?
Asking one of the above questions depending on what you feel is appropriate will help bring yourself and the person you are talking to back to the present moment.
In order to answer one of the questions above, the person would have to switch off autopilot and consider themselves and the space they have been in.
Different questions encourage self exploration.
Choosing one of the questions will be guided by the time of day and your own anticipation of the answer.
In light of Lockdown and isolation that has impacted people across the globe, genuinely connecting with an individual is needed now, more than ever.
Everyone, including you, has a light within. You are capable of shining in a way no one else can.
By acknowledging and connecting with that light in others, helps them to shake off the dust. In turn by doing so, you are given an opportunity to do the same. Are you willing to connect with someone else today?
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