Beep beep beep beeeep! – The sound of the closing door on the train. I was delighted that the sprint for the train was worth it! I made it with seconds to spare. As I fell into the seat to catch my breath, the train driver announced the destination: “This is a train to Park station”. Park? I didn’t want to go to Park; I was headed in the wrong direction. My Olympic sprinting performance to catch the train was in the opposite direction.
Have you ever got on a “train” in life, going with the flow and feel like you are going where you want to be going? You have been going with the flow and only to realise that this is not what you want to do and not where you want to be going.
You were initially not aware that this was the wrong direction as you were following the crowd and going with the flow, only to have a reality check later that this is not where you want to be going. It’s not what you want to be doing in life. It’s not the relationship you want to be in. It’s not the path you want to follow. It’s not headed where you want to be.
So now what? What do you do? How do you get off the train? How do you decide that this isn’t what you want in your life?
- Firstly, recognising that you are heading in the wrong direction – that this job, relationship, lifestyle, habit, friendship (train) is not what You want.
- Secondly, don’t judge yourself. Others may not like your decision to change as it may be going against what other people want you to do with your life. It’s your decision and it’s your life. Live it for yourself, do what You want to do. If others don’t agree with what you are doing, that is their choice but it doesn’t mean that you should live your life according to their expectations. You have to live with the consequences of your decision, not them. You need to have peace with your change in direction.
- Thirdly, change your direction. It starts with a simple step. Not necessarily huge changes at first but small steps. Like turning around and taking one step toward where you want to be.
- Fourthly, start thinking about what is that you want to be doing and looking at how you are going to get there. You have already taken the 1st step in changing direction. It is just about the next few steps and you will be on your way. I can help you with change. Change can be scary and overwhelming. You don’t have to do it on your own.
Remember, you have the choice to change as you go along. If something doesn’t work out or doesn’t feel right. Change it. You can. I believe in you. You really can. Who cares if you don’t get it right first-time. None of us do. That is how we learn and that is how we find our way.
Are you ready to change direction?