For a limited time, there was a designated graffiti space at work and a friend wrote: ‘Don’t believe everything you think’. It was only later that I discovered that Allan Lokos had also included ‘thoughts are just that – thoughts’ in his original quote.
Thankfully, you are not your thoughts as sometimes thoughts can be nasty, destructive or fear inducing.
If your beliefs are just reoccurring thoughts, then surely it must be easy to change what you think and in doing so change what you believe.
Are the beliefs that you have true? Are they rules that society has bestowed upon you without stopping to evaluate them?
Upon honest evaluation, you may discover that many of your beliefs are brules.
Brules are known as bullsh!t rules. Beliefs that are simply not true. They keep you from being happy, being true to yourself and being authentic.
Examples of brules are: ‘I am too old to change’, ‘I have to work hard to be successful’, ‘getting old is just part of life’, ‘there is something wrong with me that I am single’ or ‘I need to have a university degree to have a good career’.
Brules apply to all areas of your life including your beliefs about your relationships, family, fitness, health, career and money.
There are many brules that you follow without thinking. It’s important to question absolutely everything to find out if it’s true for you.
How to distinguish between Beliefs and Brules:
- Is your belief based on trust and hope in humanity?
- Does your belief make you treat other people the way you would like to be treated?
- Does your belief add to your happiness?
- Is your belief something you’ve adopted from culture or religion?
- Did you choose your belief rationally or because of peer pressure or imitation and social conditioning?
Everyone has their own path and their own story. That means that your life will be different to the lives of others.
What brules are ruining your life? Are you willing to let them go and live for your heart, your soul and who you authentically are?